Obsidian Desire Philosophy:

A Quiet Invitation to See Differently

Zel

Estimated Read Time: 15 minutes

What Is Obsidian Desire, and Where Did It Begin?

Obsidian Desire philosophy wasn’t designed in a lab or born in a branding session. It didn’t begin with a logo, a website, or a product to sell.

It began with ten words:

Every One Has An Agenda, No One Likes To Lose.

Not as a cynical creed, but as a quiet recognition of human nature. These ten words became a mirror, revealing what we chase, what we hide from, and what drives us whether we’re aware of it or not. They don’t accuse. They simply observe.

Obsidian Desire philosophy emerged from years of watching people navigate life and business with good intentions, tangled outcomes, and unspoken motivations. It came from noticing how often we act from fear of loss, from misunderstanding, or from the urge to be seen and validated. And it came from the realization that clarity, not control, is what frees us.

Those ten words, the foundation of our philosophy, are not a judgment. They’re a compass. They remind us that beneath every interaction is a story. A motive. A desire. When we see that clearly, we gain the power to respond, not just react.

Obsidian Desire philosophy is that pause. That breath. That reflection point.

It lives in those ten words.
And those ten words live in everything we do.

 

The Obsidian Desire Philosophy as a Living Expression of the Ten Words

Let’s break it down.

Obsidian is formed under pressure. It’s born in the heat and held in silence. It’s reflective. Sharp. Capable of cutting through illusion. In spiritual traditions, obsidian is used to reveal what’s hidden and protect what’s sacred. That’s no accident.

Desire is often misunderstood. It’s not always lust or greed. In our world, desire means direction. It’s the pull toward something deeply personal, something true. When it’s not distorted by ego or comparison, desire becomes the quiet fire that keeps us going.

And so, Obsidian Desire is what happens when pressure creates clarity, and clarity awakens purpose.

But what holds it together?

The Ten Words.

They are not a doctrine or mantra. They are a lived reality.

Every One Has An Agenda, No One Likes To Lose.

We all want something. Safety. Love. Belonging. Success. Recognition. Simplicity. Meaning.
We also fear something. Rejection. Embarrassment. Loss. Uncertainty. Failure.

The Ten Words help us admit that. They help us stop pretending. And when we stop pretending, we can finally start choosing.

At Obsidian Desire, we don’t use the Ten Words to control others, we use them to understand ourselves. To untangle decisions. To speak with compassion. To see through the noise.

They support every offering, every blog post, every journal, and every whisper of reflection we share.

Because when you recognize what’s really driving you, you’re no longer being dragged by it. You’re walking beside it.

 

This is Where it Became Clear

Let me offer you something real.

I used to think that insight came from achievement. From credentials. From being the loudest, or the most right, in the room.
But I’ve learned it comes from sitting in the discomfort of not knowing, and staying there.

I remember a time when I helped someone build their dream, only to realize I was abandoning my own. I said yes because I didn’t want to lose connection, approval, or relevance. I didn’t call it fear, I called it responsibility.

But it was fear.
The Ten Words showed me that.

That’s how Obsidian Desire philosophy began.
Not with a brand strategy.
With honesty.

Another time, I watched a client sabotage their business out of a need to prove they didn’t need help. The fear of “losing”, control, independence, authority, was stronger than their desire to succeed. When I gently asked, “What are you trying not to lose?” the answer broke the tension instantly.

The Ten Words don’t shame you.
They reveal you.
They ask the question underneath the question.
And if you let them, they’ll free you to be more human, not less.

Obsidian Desire is the space where that kind of reflection is possible.

We’re not selling you a version of yourself. We’re inviting you to rediscover what’s already there, beneath the noise, the roles, the performance.

 

If You Feel the Pull

Here’s how you begin, not with effort, but with curiosity:

• Speak the Ten Words aloud. Then sit in silence. What rises? Resistance? Agreement? A name? A moment from your past? Follow that thread.
• Start a journal. Write your truths without trying to fix them. Obsidian Desire offers guided prompts, but even a blank page will do. Let the Ten Words shape your questions.
• In your next conflict, pause. Ask: What is their agenda? What is mine? And what are we afraid to lose? The insight may change everything, even if you say nothing aloud.
• Share the philosophy. Not to persuade, but to plant a seed. Let the Ten Words find their way into conversations, decisions, and personal practices.

You don’t have to believe anything to begin.
Just notice. That’s enough.

 

Closing Encouragement

You are not broken. You are not behind. You are not too late.

You are already walking a path, maybe just not the one you thought.
The Ten Words won’t save you.
They’ll show you.
What you do next is up to you.

Here at Obsidian Desire, we don’t chase followers.
We honor travelers.

So, if the words stir something in you, stay for a while.
And if they don’t, take the ember and walk on.

There is nothing to lose in knowing yourself.
Only things to remember.

 

More Than Just Ten Words

While the Ten Words are the foundation of Obsidian Desire philosophy, they are not the whole story.

In the weeks ahead, we’ll explore other guiding principles that support this path:

• The Golden Triad ,  a reflective framework of Understanding, Knowledge, and Perspective to help you navigate decisions with clarity.
• The BEND Principle™ ,  a grounded response method: Breathe, Examine, Navigate, Do/Don’t, built to help you meet challenges without losing your center.
• The FLOW Principle™ ,  a Taoist-inspired movement guide: Follow, Listen, Open, Weave, designed to bring ease and grace to your daily rhythm.

Each principle is rooted in the same quiet philosophy: don’t impose, observe. Don’t control, choose. Don’t fix, feel. Together, these tools create a soft structure, a way to return to yourself no matter what the world asks of you.

Stay with us. There’s more to unfold.

 

Final Taoist Words of Wisdom

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”
,  Lao Tzu

We’re not here to master others.
We’re here to understand ourselves.
And in that, perhaps, we find peace.